Because we r sitting here reading posts that say we may as well accept the fact that we are going to be alone the rest of our lives. I have so much MORE to offer at 53 thatn i did at 33….but the packaging is older….and nobody gives me a second thougt! I left a totally dysunctional relationship i tried to keep going for 8 yrs.
Keep in mind when a man is ready for a lasting relationship, he wants to see you frequently and finds a way — no matter how busy he is. He wants to get to know you to discover if you’re the one for him. I don’t think it’s wrong at all . I’m 46 and my man , whom I live with is only thirty . I’m sixteen years older then him .
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Your article makes me sad for you – you sound so bitter and unhappy in your own right- perhaps this is why you are having trouble finding love? The way you speak of younger women is just so discouraging, as a fellow woman- you are simply adding to the notion of women tearing down women. Find your joy and you will attract someone equally joyous.
So im 2all most 3 yrs single and no dating..learning to injoy my time on my own.. I’m a 53 yr old active man that needs to make sure a gym is part of my life because I don’t want to be out of shape at 65 or older. My problem is finding a woman over 40 that is physically fit and has been for a while. Someone who will continue to keep fit. For last 3 months, the kids go to their dad’s, 1 weekend out of 3, but this has already started to change as dd’s 2 and 3 have plans and want to stay home, so I literally get zero time to myself. First and foremost, please look like your photo on a first date via an online match.
«I know all relationships, partnerships are fluid. They will never ever stay the same.» It really depends on where you live especially if you’re not from LA and the person you’re dating isn’t either. Native southern Californians won’t think twice about driving miles to see someone but transplants really struggle with living in Santa Monica and dating someone in Glendale . For a newbie and even people who’ve been here a while their world’s are just so much smaller. Chances are the kind of girl you want is here but might not be where you’re at. If you want blue hair and a nose ring that’s going to be found more in certain parts of the region than others.
A profile is not a person
Best things about being 50… I have less patience for wasting time in misery! Dealing with dating in my 50s feels like another huge challenge, but there are YOUNGER MEN too Jajajaja. But I am still holding out for the right situation for me, probably similar age or older. I became a widower in 2008 after nearly 20 years of marriage to my same age partner.
I’m not talking about codependency. There is a grey area, but I’m talking about not wanting to get married again. But my last partner and best friend wanted to be a groom. I had to explain to him that I could change my mind on that.
An older man who’s worthy of your time knows what he wants in a relationship.
But I have considered widows, so that makes me a bit inconsistent, Lol. It may be a little old fashioned, but I prefer the original method of courtship. I don’t have a sense of entitlement and I pay my way for many, many things, but I like a man to be a man. Nothing wrong with a little chivalry, even in this day and age. Down the road if the relationship turns into something meaningful I don’t mind doing my share of paying for dinner and other activities.
Are we too old to have a “girlfriend” that becomes the love of our lives? Unhappy or single and maybe more unhappy…. It’s not the age of the body, it’s the aging of the mind and drop in sex drive I think. I am a 54 year old, reasonably attractive male who has never been married, but am currently on dating sites (like eHarmony and Christian Mingle, etc.) and am not seeing anyone like you out there.
It’s going to be my first relationship with a partner more than 5yrs older than me. He already thinks of settling down and getting married in a year’s time which is what i want, but im really worried about the age gap (14yrs!). Physically,he looks like a mid-thirties guy, but the fact still remains. Right now, i know that a relationship with him would go well, but im worried abt the long term… Like when i’m 40 and he’s 54.
I don’t even know if a stable, genuine man exists anymore. I don’t know what else to do anymore. I am not someone who enjoys being alone.
I want to let you know that if this is your experience you may want to look at how you might change things up a little. Maybe express yourself differently online and off. There are SO many men looking for women like you. In fact when you read the comments from men here they are telling you that.
Was a rare case of neither of us went after each other afterwards, both of us were wrong and we maintained respect for each other in that honesty after the initial blame games. I guess I still “Love” every woman I’ve been with, but I don’t fool around with betraying the one https://thedatingpros.com/ I’m with…..its just not reciprocated. Over a year with a profile on one of the major dating sites, and no dates. None from my real-life interactions either. I enjoy meeting people in chat rooms to visit but those “relationships” will never go anywhere beyond cyber space.